Where Art Thou, Modest Formal?

Next month our Christian homeschool group will be having its annual formal. This will be Morgan’s second formal to attend.  Pictures will be taken, food will be eaten, scavenger hunts and games will be plentiful.  Morgan is raring to go! The dress search has been under way for two weeks now. Heavy sigh. 

Let me explain shopping for formal wear with my daughter for you in one word, painful. You see, my lovely daughter is a camo-clothes wearing, deer slaying, tournament archer kind of girl. A tomboy if you will.  

Another problem we face with formal dress shopping is a lack of modesty in the dresses.  The dear daughter is about 6’0″ tall and finding clothing that provides length for those legs can be a daunting task.  This year we thought we would shop online, sparing us the agony and constant complaints from her.  Morgan’s idea of shopping is going to the local archery shop for hunting and archery supplies, not frilly, girly clothes shopping. 

With her measurements taken and written down, I began my lengthy search for modest formal dresses. Whoa!  Hold up a second there!  To quote my dearly departed Maw-Maw Morgan, “Land o’ Goshen!”  Yep!  Modesty is lacking in these dresses.  Big time!  Some of the lengths of the dresses are so short, they would be the equivalent of Morgan wearing a tee shirt! Oh, and the descriptions of these “little numbers” (pun intended) are not exactly my definition of modest, either.  Here are few of those descriptions:  SEXY PARTY DRESS, SEXY DEEP V NECK DRESS, and let us not forget this one, HIGH-LOW SEXY EVENING DRESS. I’m not sure what high-low means, but by looking at that particular dress my assessment was this:  the length went way upward from the knee and way lower from the neck!  And yes, these were under the search heading MODEST FORMAL DRESSES

Maybe to some we are prudes, but my a few of my goals are to teach my daughter to be a Christian lady, to honor God, to be humble and respectful, and to have self control.  Dressing or (not dressing in some cases) to distract and create a wrong impression is not on our to do list. 

For years now, fashion has seemed to push the “less is more” envelope. It’s not for us. Thankfully, it’s not for a lot of the mothers and daughters I know. Kudos to you wonderful gals!

With less than a month before the formal, the modest dress search continues for that long-legged, tomboy girl of mine! 

1 Timothy 2:9-10 ESV

9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. 

Blessings to you all,

JoAnn